************************************** hate • dislike • can't stand • despise • can't bear • loathe • detest • abhor These words all mean to have a strong feeling of dislike for sb/sth. dislike , hate , can't bear , loathe , despise, can't stand , detest , abhor PATTERNS AND COLLOCATIONS hate / BrE ; AmE / [ T , I ] ( not used in the progressive tenses ) to have a strong feeling of dislike for sb/sth He hates violence in any form. ◇ I've always hated cabbage. ◇ Sometimes I really hate her. ◇ I hated myself for feeling jealous. ◇ She hates making mistakes. ◇ I would hate him to think he wasn't welcome here. ◇ I hate to think what would have happened if you hadn't been there. ◇ She hated it in France ( = did not like the life there ) . ◇ When children are taught to hate , the whole future of society is in danger. He was the teacher that we all loved to hate ( = seemed to enjoy hating ) . ◇ I hate it when people cry. ◇ She hated every moment of school. ◇ He was beginning to hate his job. ◇ I hated him with a passion. ◇ They were brought up to hate anyone of a different religion. ◇ He hates to be away from his family. Although hate is generally a very strong verb, it is also commonly used in spoken or informal English to talk about people or things that you dislike in a less important way, for example a particular type of food. dislike / BrE ; AmE / [ T ] ( not used in the progressive tenses ) ( rather formal ) to not like sb/sth Why do you dislike him so much? ◇ Not only would she rather not go swimming, she actively dislikes it. ◇ The new regime is universally disliked . He was disliked by most of his contemporaries. ◇ He disliked it when she phoned him so late at night. ◇ Most people dislike going to the dentist. ◇ My father always disliked me staying away from home. ◇ Though he seemed charming, the girl instinctively disliked him. ◇ Much as she disliked asking for help, she knew she had to. Dislike is a rather formal word; it is less formal, and more usual to say that you don't like sb/sth, especially in spoken English: I don't like it when you phone me so late at night. stand / BrE ; AmE / [ T , no passive ] ( not used in the progressive tenses ) ( rather informal , especially spoken ) used in negative statements and questions to emphasize that you really do not like sb/sth I can't stand his brother. ◇ She can't stand the sight of blood. ◇ I can't stand it when you do that. ◇ How could she have stood such treatment for so long? She couldn't stand being kept waiting. ◇ I can't stand people interrupting all the time! despise / BrE ; AmE / [ T ] ( not used in the progressive tenses ) to dislike and have no respect for sb/sth She despised gossip in any form. ◇ He despised himself for being so cowardly. I don't know why they despise me so much. bear / BrE ; AmE / bore , borne [ T ] ( not used in the progressive tenses ) used in negative statements and questions to say that you dislike sth so much that you cannot accept or deal with it How can you bear to eat that stuff? ◇ I just can't bear it any more! ◇ The pain was almost more than he could bear. ◇ She couldn't bear the thought of losing him. I can't bear having cats in the house. ◇ She couldn't bear seeing him so upset. NOTE can't stand or can't bear? In many cases you can use either word, but can't bear is slightly stronger and slightly more formal than can't stand . Can't stand is not used with an infinitive : How can you stand to eat that stuff? Bear , but not stand , has the closely related meaning of ‘to accept and deal with sth unpleasant’, used in positive statements: She bore it all with her usual patience. ◇ She stood it all with her usual patience. loathe / BrE ; AmE / [ T ] ( not used in the progressive tenses ) to hate sb/sth very much They loathe each other. ◇ Many of the people fear and loathe the new government. ◇ He loathed hypocrisy. Loathe is generally an even stronger verb than hate , but it can also be used more informally to talk about less important things, meaning ‘really don't like’: Whether you love or loathe their music, you can't deny their talent. detest / BrE ; AmE / [ T ] ( not used in the progressive tenses ) ( rather formal ) to hate sb/sth very much They absolutely detest each other. ◇ I detest being treated like a child. abhor / BrE ; AmE / ( not used in the progressive tenses ) ( formal ) to hate sth very much, for example a way of behaving or thinking, especially for moral reasons Most decent people abhor corruption in government.